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What other people think, this is a subject that crosses our mind, particularly when we are made to look at ourselves, or to observe and review our own lives, before putting ourselves on public display, whether its looking in the mirror to check our outfit and our faces, or assembling a project to put on display to be viewed by others, what will people think?

I think when we think of successful people, we assume that they are successful because they don’t care what other people think, why there are able to be unique and thought provoking, it will seem like they are trying to get attention, when we assume that they are being different on purpose to attract attention to them, when really its that they care what people think, and that they encourage people to think, its actually a way of showing people that if one seems like they don’t care, its to allow who’s viewing to not care either, which means its okay to think what you want to think, and the person who is triggering your thought processes, wants you to think.

I think people get in the most trouble, when they come across as not caring what people think, you’re more likely to state things in a way to trigger others to think, and that’s what can appear to make you sound like you’re coming across as too strong, when you speak for reaction from others, sometimes people feel offended by who is causing them to think, or what they think a person is trying to make them think about. So that’s the risk in creating thought processes, by either sharing an incomplete thought or a thought without thinking for the repercussions of sharing what you think. If it’s a situation of who knows you wont care, don’t forget to think about those who don’t know you, will you be received in the same way, or appear obnoxious.

I was reviewing unattractive qualities in mates the other day, and one of which was a woman who talks to much, I was never one of them, I was always made to talk about myself, and I used to enjoy the company of women, who were not afraid to talk or share what was on their mind, they were obviously Chelsea Handler fans, a different sort of humor for strong-minded women.

So when is a good time to be concerned with what other people think and when should you just simply focus on yourself? Be concerned if you are eliciting for feedbacks in terms of the quality of service you are providing to others, whether it’s a correct statement or incorrect statement of you, as a provider online or in real life whether as a business or for a client, you will have to accommodate that person’s complaint, like any business or restaurant, either it is something you seek to fix to accommodate the one person in place of the risk of not accommodating anyone future, or it’s something you overlook in defiance, which is also a risk you take, when not taking into consideration a complain made concerning your service provided to others.

Caring what people think, has a lot to do with respect. To show that you are courteous and care what people think is a good strategy to be assumed as not caring, or not careful, most people who see you in a position of trust online as a blogger, would want to know who is helped and why, and overtime what is consistent about your work ethic. That makes you palatable to the tastes of most. If people only see you cutting loose and being funny, well then they will not know where the respect or popularity comes from. If people see you being too serious and only talking about problems, then they will not know what’s so approachable about you. If people hear about your story or who you know, then you will have to convince people that you are being read, more than just for the reason of who you know followed. And if people want to know more about how you are able to be well liked, then they will want to situate themselves similarly to know how to be well received by a majority of people online.

Credits & Influence: Who is popular and why?

That’s the credit that gets the most attention? Who is popular and why? Should we all conform and make adjustments, or should be ignore what we find wrong in ourselves, and not accommodate for more acceptances? Who is being improved, who is being imitated, where what is coming from whom, what standard is being set, who is setting the standard, and who is believed to receiving the benefit of improvement, which weighted equally should be evenly distributed to both the reader, the author, the newcomer, the long time fan. A more highly coveted position of professionalism, seeks to help people overall on the basis of what is popular and trending among my audience (that is a Public Health benefit to know and to be able to monitor the trending conditions and adjustments of people overall to content online and through music and film, how much of it is changing us for the better, all of it I would say!),

It really makes you think about who should be favored in treatments or not, why should we think that way, why should we not admit to “conditions” that fall under a class of individuals we see ourselves as not disabled the same? Good question.

Before analyzing what other people think, first get down what you think and why:

  • What are you thinking?
  • What is triggering your thinking?
  • What made you think of that and why?
  • What are you thinking in tangent to what you initially thought?
  • What are other ways of thinking what you thought.
  • Is your thought positive or negative and why?
  • What is a negative way to see things (don’t be ashamed).
  • What is the proper way to see things (can be positive or negative).
  • Then how should you speak in reflection of what you think.
  • Does what you think bother you, or would it bother others?
  • Then determine whether that thought is appropriate, coming from you, or not.

Concern for Audiences: Thought Provoking

Who should we grow concerned for as an audience, in terms of who is benefited. Why would we be concerned over who is benefited? Because who is benefited is who can be affected, whoever receives a benefit is capable of being hurt if that benefit is deemed to come from a place or person who is not reliable or not real or is capable of putting a persons risk or chances in life at risk of harm.

For example, a person who experiences a harder life as a result of meeting me, (i.e. influenced to become a term judged by, or perceived as in look and demeanor) would be my fault if its believed that my fundamentals or teachings in life, do not work to create a clearer sense of self and sense of self in their own reality. That’s the confidence factor being weighed. Is a person more likely to be hired, make friends, and be liked, yes! Those are all qualities that I have a person, makes friends easily, meets people easily on dating apps, and gets jobs. Next of concern would be which positions in life are better decisions made, and for which positions in life are improved states of being occurring for whom and why, and how should everyone be affected by who is improved, and what is being credited as a sources for improvement.

Usually the person who you would credit for an improved state in others, is not believed, because you naturally see others, and do not reason that this person is this way because of this person they read or know. Most people do not know who people know or what they have read, which makes this even more challenging to discern, how much should it matter, what is read by others, or what impressions or fundamentals are instilled in a person, to make things work for them in life. Readers in common, have something to talk about. Liked in common, would respect eachother. Read in common with an unliked reader, would not want to read me. Likes in common and reads me, would be more comfortable with eachother as readers, not me.

Research: What people think

One article I read in Scientific American, focuses on what people think in terms of the “accepted realm of social behaviors.” [1] This would relate to my suggestion and reflection on how providers of care or people on social media are made to either accommodate what people think, or create for with acceptance for the variations of what people could think, or what they do think, respond in a way that is congruent to those cares in life, meaning yes, “reputation” does matter as this article suggests, especially in terms of the comfort either found or not found, which is why “discomfort” or “lack of confidence” tends to be qualities that are provoked for or tested to see what are intrinsic states of being that cannot be changed, as to them or themselves, or what are states of being extrinsic to others in light of them, to be affected their states of being, which is what is weighed when considering whether a person is of themselves an internalized withheld state of being that is not congruent, or whether a person is adapting to a state of being held in others, that one is not expected to have arrived or achieved in themselves, this what excludes people from a reality or sense of being, not being able to achieve a peace too.

Another article in The Atlantic, talks about a completely different subject when it comes to “what people think,” declaring so confidently to not care, Im sure there was more to that, but that’s a good stance in a title, to cater to those who don’t have the time and energy to waste invested speculating or becoming concerned over what makes up an identity or personality, to credit or not credit as one fitting in among others, with traits of their own, or judge them as imitated a social state of being not existing on their own. Which is the controversy and the complication to understand how someone like me isolated fits among without any social proof or historic understanding of my personality or how I was among others growing up. Is this a new state of being, a new Leslie, or is this who Leslie has always been, and what changed her? This article warns us of “indulging [in] this bad habit.” [2]

If survival is based on membership, then there is a clear understanding of accommodating all who you are connected to or seeking acceptances from, and if that majority you seek acceptances of are already accepted and found to be trusting and non-judgmental, then that would be the common thread, a good basis for improvement. To be accepted as someone who is not judgmental, who would not change others, or make uncomfortable. Which leads us to the clear picture of confidence, improved but not hurt in exchange for learning and appreciating a new way of being, is a place where someone feels heard, reflects a type of person who wants to be like, and who like me has experienced lesser states of being, mental health wise, is who people can relate to me on a large scale. Most think, but have not put into words all those changes in feelings, worries, or connections, and have the work done for them, where all they have to do is identify whether they fit among, or don’t, or can and are able to achieve a higher state of being, and not be confused, or delusioned, to think worse of themselves or others, that’s the big picture the people who are trusted, comforted by.

References:

[1] https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/anthropology-in-practice/what-other-people-think-about-us-mattersheres-why/

[2] https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2021/11/how-stop-caring-what-other-people-think-you/620670/

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